Happy Doc Student Podcast

#18 How to Feel Good About Feedback with Dr. Kelly Stewart

March 10, 2021 Heather Frederick, PhD Episode 18
Happy Doc Student Podcast
#18 How to Feel Good About Feedback with Dr. Kelly Stewart
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Happy Doc Student Podcast
#18 How to Feel Good About Feedback with Dr. Kelly Stewart
Mar 10, 2021 Episode 18
Heather Frederick, PhD

Ask yourself: 

  • How do I receive feedback?
  • How do I find space?

 Dr. Kelly Stewart holds a Doctorate of Education in Educational Leadership and Innovation with a specialization in Curriculum and Policy from Arizona State University. She started her career as a Language Arts Teacher and is currently an Assistant Professor and Faculty Lead for the Ph.D. in Education program at the University of Arizona , Global Campus where she is actively involved in a number of university initiatives, including the Doctoral Advisory Counsel. 

Why does feedback feel so bad? 

  • We aren’t used to it; the educational system does not train us to revise the same work over and over, so we take feedback personal.

Things to remember:

  • Feedback does not mean failure
  • Feedback is a GIFT
  • Approach feedback with curiosity 
  • The point of feedback is to move you forward
  • Your committee WANTS you to finish! (no one wants to DELAY you)
  • Your committee’s job is to give you feedback
  • The doctoral journey is a GROWTH process
  • No one was born knowing how to write a dissertation
  • An email sent in haste cannot be taken back
  • Use affirmations: “My writing is improving with each revision.”
  • You are playing “Dissertation Jenga”

Tips:

  • Do not panic
  • Breathe
  • Name the emotion so you can process it and move through it 
  • Talk about the situation in the 3rd person
  • Know when to step away and get perspective (DO *NOT* SEND AN EMAIL TO ANYONE ON YOUR COMMITTEE UNTIL YOU HAVE PERSPECTIVE)
  • Identify how you find SPACE
  • Put a sticky note on your computer that says: “Dr. [insert your name], Remember that your committee loves you and wants you to finish. If you feel yourself stressing out you will: [ fill in the blank with how you find space]).
  • Read ALL comments 
  • Do the easy fixes, then mentally group the comments
  • Ask for help from your Chair in terms of managing the feedback
  • Ask for a Zoom/Skype/phone call – it can change everything
  • Trust the process
  • Learning how to receive feedback is a PRACTICE – you are GROWING

Committee members: Communicate with your students about the receiving of feedback.

“It always seems impossible until it is done” – Nelson Mandela 

“When we know better, we do better” – Maya Angelou

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Viktor E. Frankl

Additional resources
1. Ladder of Inference (Senege): https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTMC_91.htm
2. Growth Mindset with Carol Dweck: https://youtu.be/hiiEeMN7vb
3. Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence https://www.ycei.org/ - Mood meter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qj6AIczvDhg &
4. Episode #12 Is Meditation a Waste of Time with davidji:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1547113/7485712
5. Episode #16 Why Reason & Logic Will Only Get You So Far with Anna Yusim, MD:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1547113/7913662
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Show Notes

Ask yourself: 

  • How do I receive feedback?
  • How do I find space?

 Dr. Kelly Stewart holds a Doctorate of Education in Educational Leadership and Innovation with a specialization in Curriculum and Policy from Arizona State University. She started her career as a Language Arts Teacher and is currently an Assistant Professor and Faculty Lead for the Ph.D. in Education program at the University of Arizona , Global Campus where she is actively involved in a number of university initiatives, including the Doctoral Advisory Counsel. 

Why does feedback feel so bad? 

  • We aren’t used to it; the educational system does not train us to revise the same work over and over, so we take feedback personal.

Things to remember:

  • Feedback does not mean failure
  • Feedback is a GIFT
  • Approach feedback with curiosity 
  • The point of feedback is to move you forward
  • Your committee WANTS you to finish! (no one wants to DELAY you)
  • Your committee’s job is to give you feedback
  • The doctoral journey is a GROWTH process
  • No one was born knowing how to write a dissertation
  • An email sent in haste cannot be taken back
  • Use affirmations: “My writing is improving with each revision.”
  • You are playing “Dissertation Jenga”

Tips:

  • Do not panic
  • Breathe
  • Name the emotion so you can process it and move through it 
  • Talk about the situation in the 3rd person
  • Know when to step away and get perspective (DO *NOT* SEND AN EMAIL TO ANYONE ON YOUR COMMITTEE UNTIL YOU HAVE PERSPECTIVE)
  • Identify how you find SPACE
  • Put a sticky note on your computer that says: “Dr. [insert your name], Remember that your committee loves you and wants you to finish. If you feel yourself stressing out you will: [ fill in the blank with how you find space]).
  • Read ALL comments 
  • Do the easy fixes, then mentally group the comments
  • Ask for help from your Chair in terms of managing the feedback
  • Ask for a Zoom/Skype/phone call – it can change everything
  • Trust the process
  • Learning how to receive feedback is a PRACTICE – you are GROWING

Committee members: Communicate with your students about the receiving of feedback.

“It always seems impossible until it is done” – Nelson Mandela 

“When we know better, we do better” – Maya Angelou

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Viktor E. Frankl

Additional resources
1. Ladder of Inference (Senege): https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTMC_91.htm
2. Growth Mindset with Carol Dweck: https://youtu.be/hiiEeMN7vb
3. Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence https://www.ycei.org/ - Mood meter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qj6AIczvDhg &
4. Episode #12 Is Meditation a Waste of Time with davidji:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1547113/7485712
5. Episode #16 Why Reason & Logic Will Only Get You So Far with Anna Yusim, MD:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1547113/7913662
Sign up for a free inspirational 7-day email adventure here: https://www.expandyourhappy.com/HDSP121
Support my free content: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/expandyourhappy